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Many of us grow up with deeply ingrained, powerful tradition during the holidays. No matter our religion, race, ethnicity, or socioeconomic status. What is it that your family shares for the holiday as it relates to tradition? As a mom, I see how very important tradition is for my own children as it relates to structure and family importance and fond memories. I remember that it was so important for me as a child. I looked forward to that same thing year after year. It made me feel part of a community and I knew what I could look forward to.
I think it is worthwhile to reflect on what traditions we have for our families. I remember when I was in a group one time speaking about food and how this group denied the importance of food traditions. Let us not in any way deny our children the joy they recieve by the religious or traditional buffets we serve on holidays. I want you to know as a psychotherapist in the field of psychology how our children crave this familiar traditional and most structured family events. This is emotionally healthy for them.
I work with at -risk families. The number one hope for kids whether they say it or not, is to be able to sit at a dinner table with family on holidays like they see and witness in the movies. I want us all to reflect on how children yearn to have an intact family they can share traditions and dinner with. Please do not ever punish children for the parents issues. Every child needs to be loved in the community and did not ask to be judged.