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Friday, November 19, 2010

Winter, atmosphere and tradition - Please listen first

Many of us grow up with deeply ingrained, powerful  tradition during the holidays. No matter our religion, race, ethnicity, or socioeconomic status.  What is it that your family shares for the holiday as it relates to  tradition?  As a mom, I see how very important tradition is for my own children as it relates to structure and family importance and fond memories.  I remember that it was so important for me as a child.  I looked forward to that same thing year after year. It made me feel part of a community and I knew what I  could look forward to.

I think it is worthwhile to reflect on what traditions we have for our families.  I remember when I was in a group one time speaking about food and how this group denied the importance of food traditions. Let us not in any way deny our children the joy they recieve by the religious or traditional buffets we serve on holidays.  I want you to know as a psychotherapist in the field of psychology how our children crave this familiar traditional and most structured family events.  This is emotionally healthy for them.

I work with at -risk families.  The number one hope for kids whether they say it or not, is to be able to sit at a dinner table with family on holidays like they see and witness in the movies. I want us all to reflect on how children yearn to have an intact family they can share traditions and dinner with.  Please do not ever punish children for the parents issues. Every child needs to be loved in the community and did not ask to be judged.

 This wish is not complicated.  Every child deserves this simple wish. Please know that their are children in your own neighborhood that you have no idea, need your help. I remember as a child that because my parents had issues, I was labeled. I am pleading with all of you to see that children do not deserve to be judged.  Please open up your heart and see that young children are ONLY in need of love and support.  Please listen to my joyous video by Enya to relax you.  Do Not ever judge a child because of the parents.


  1. I agree,laura. Traditions to a child are like a favorite blanket. May not be physically necessary, but emotionally, it is a comfort that can't be underestimated!

  2. Jackie,
    I love that analogy to the blanket. Awesome. Thanks for the comment. Have a lovely, safe and warm thanksgiving. Oh yea, you don't have to worry of snow. lol